Raising Outgoing Children

I was secretly hoping no one would be at the park this afternoon. But the boys are thrilled there are other kids here. I sit far away but still within view of where the boys are playing. I don’t want to hover or nag them while they playing. Abel is at home napping while Joe works so I only have the older 3. They are all old enough to play on their own. I overhear the boys striking up a conversation with some of the other parents. But I’m not going to intervene, everyone seems fine and happy. I realize for the first time in 10 years of parenting that I don’t really care what others think of me but I do care how I make other people feel. And as a mother that same sentiment is extended with my children. I care how my children make other people feel. My boys are very social and are pretty good at making others feel awkward. It kind of drives me nuts and it’s one of the reasons I nag them to be less intrusive in public. But really they aren’t being intrusive, just inquisitive and friendly. All of my helicopter parenting is striving to make sure other adults aren’t uncomfortable. Meanwhile, I’m sort of crushing my own kids. I’m not taking into account how I’m making them feel. I so often see my kids as an extension of me, instead of the individual unique people they actually are. Now, I’m not going to let my kids be little brats but it’s OK if they strike up awkward conversations with people or say ridiculous stuff. If they are kind and caring I’m proud of my kids.

Body Confidence #MonistatCure

As you get older your body changes. If you’re a woman that’s carried a child you’ve probably noticed that you can never quite get back your pre-pregnancy body. I’m not just talking about weight and dress size, but hormones. Something magical happens with the female body during pregnancy. Hormones kick in and the body grows and changes in new, amazing way. But after all of the changes that are essential for a pregnancy your body feels and acts differently after pregnancy.

Personally, I’ve noticed that my hair and skin have changed since having kids. I find it more difficult to lose weight in certain areas of my body. I also noticed changes in my lady parts. With the fluctuation of hormones and all of the physical changes it can be hard to feel comfortable in your own body, much less sexy. It’s been 3 years since my last baby and I’m just now starting to regain confidence in my body. Confidence comes by being knowledgeable and experienced. After major changes happen in your body it’s totally normal to feel less confident. It takes time to get re-acquainted with your body. Now that I’m older I am less concerned about what others think of me but my body is also less reliable. It’s important for me to be prepared for sudden changes in my body so I keep Monistat products on-hand.

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Our bodies go through a lot of changes so we should all learn to be familiar with our bodies. The better we know ourselves and our intimate areas, the easier it is to recognize when something is not right, like a yeast infection, and correct it .

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Thoughts on Year-Round School

We are in the midst of our first track-out on the year-round school calendar. After every 9 weeks of school the boys get 3 weeks off for track-out. This is our first year not only sending our kids to public school but also adhering to a year-round calendar. And I have to say that I really love this schedule, once I got past the typical mindset of 3 month long summer breaks which is how I grew up.

We have completed 2 weeks of track-out with this next week being our final. What makes this time so great is that while Jude and Noah are out of school Simon is still on a traditional calendar so he goes to preschool every day from 9-1. With Simon in school during the mornings I’m able to take Jude, Noah and Abel out on little outings around town. That one child difference make things a little bit easier. Then because Joe works from home I’m able to take the big boys out for afternoon adventures while Abel naps.

So far we’ve visited several parks, met up with friends, visited our favorite museums, gone bowling, and even took a short trip to Great Wolf Lodge. It’s been such a great break. I’m glad we have one more week off but I’m also glad the boys go back to school next week.

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Jude read the first 2 Harry Potter Books over break. Photo Oct 12, 3 26 16 PM

We went bowling and Noah scored almost 100 on our first game. Photo Oct 12, 12 04 21 PM

Of course we had to get some Halloween Krispy Kreme doughnuts. Photo Oct 12, 11 29 48 AM

One of our favorite places, the North Carolina Museum of Natural Science     Photo Oct 07, 11 34 15 AM

While the big boys were off selling popcorn for Cub Scouts, Abel and I visited the fire station. Photo Oct 07, 1 31 13 PM

We even got to see Santa Photo Oct 09, 4 06 46 PM

Jude built and epic castle at Marbles Kids Museum

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We checked out the Ninja Warrior park in Apex Photo Oct 03, 10 06 32 AM

The carousel at Pullen Park is only $1 and was on the top of our to-do list. Photo Oct 03, 6 45 30 PM

Knightdale Community Day Photo Oct 04, 6 47 01 PM Getting ready to Trick-or-Treat at Great Wolf Lodge

Book Review: Max and Bird

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My boys love Ed Vere’s book Max the Brave so when we had the opportunity to review his newest book Max and Bird it was a not brainer.

Max and Bird is the story of an unlikely friendship between Max, a cat and Bird, a bird. When Max meets Bird, Max thinks he’d like to be friends with Bird. He would also like to chase Bird and maybe eat him as a tasty snack. But that’s not what friendship is all about . . . Is it?

We really love the simple and expressive illustrations throughout this playful story. It’s a quick and easy read for adults and kids alike. Yet, the simplicity of the storytelling doesn’t hinder the wonderful story about friendship.

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About Ed Vere
Ed Vere is the New York Times and USA Today bestselling author of Max the Brave, which was also named one of the Sunday Times‘s 100 Modern Children’s Classics. His book ‘Mr Big‘ was chosen by Book Trust as the official Booktime book for 2009 and was distributed to 750,000 British schoolchildren, making it the largest single print run of a picture book, Vere was also the World Book Day illustrator for 2009. He lives in London.

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10 years

A few weeks ago Joe and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. We took a long weekend trip to the mountains of North Carolina, just outside of Asheville. It was such a welcomed get-away. We’d been so busy with life that I think if we hadn’t gotten away we may have completely overlooked our anniversary.

We rented a small cabin on VRBO that was about a 20 minute drive outside of Asheville. It was a great location because it forced us to slow down and really enjoy the time away and each other. I’m a planner and I love having plans when we go somewhere but other than a few ideas of things we wanted to see/do we had no real plans and it was so nice. Our cabin didn’t have cell reception so we were off grid in a manner of speaking, we did have wifi.

We toured Biltmore, we toured a local brewery, we ate A LOT, we hiked and we just relaxed. It was a perfect weekend way to reconnect and recharge.

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Native Deodorant – A natural deodorant that works

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Over the past 10 years of being married to Joe he’s helped me take notice of what I was putting in and on my body. There are so many unknown chemicals in products we use everyday and no one is really sure what the long term effect of said chemicals may be. So we tried to be very cautious of what we use in our home. We follow the rule of if you can’t read the ingredients you probably don’t need them.

We recently tried Native Deodorant and I’m in love. I have honestly tried a dozen or so natural deodorants and none of them have been very success for me. I’ve been using Native now for about a month and it actually works. I’m a little particular about the scents I use on my body, I don’t like anything overly perfume-y. I am currently testing out two different scents the Rose and Magnolia scent and Rose and Lavender scent. I really like both a lot but I think the Rose and Lavender is probably my favorite. Joe is also testing out the Cypress and Cedar scent. All three of these scents are fresh and clean smelling.

What I really love about Native is the quality and commitment to creating a safe product. All of their deodorants are aluminum free and paraben free. They don’t just cover up bad orders with an overly perfume-y smell but they actually use ingredients like baking soda to neutralize odors, arrowroot powder to absorb moisture and acidophilus to eliminate odor-causing fungi, yeast, and bacteria. All of their deodorants are a solid deodorant that goes on smoothly and won’t stain your clothes.

Native offers free shipping on all orders and if you don’t like it, they will give you a full refund. Priced at around $12 each I think it’s a great product for the money especially. All of their products are made in the USA in small batches and are never tested on animals. What’s not to love!

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Design Center Meeting – Building a House

Last week we had our Design Center meeting which means we selected all of the interior finishes for our new house. It was a 2.5 hour meeting (which is surprisingly shorter than I was expecting). We selected everything from flooring to door knobs to bathroom tile to the fireplace mantle.

Since we are building in a pre-planned community we had “standard” options which are built into the cost of the house and “upgrade” options. Some of the upgrade options were ridiculously priced so in a lot of areas we stuck with standard options because it’s just cheaper to upgrade some of the items after we move in. (For instance 1 cabinet in the kitchen to be upgraded to a pull-out trashcan was $600!) However, most of the larger items like flooring, tile, cabinets, counter tops, etc… were reasonably priced to upgrade.

I tried to take a lot of pictures of our selections so I would remember but also so I could share them with you.

The very first thing we selected was our kitchen faucet. Weird right? Well, there is 1 standard style of faucet and you can upgrade the finish of the faucet but we just went with the standard which was the Moen Arbor in Chrome.

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Then we selected our bathroom faucets. Same deal except we had 2 standard designs to choose from. We selected the Moen Eva set because it looked easier to clean.

Photo Sep 13, 9 55 42 AM Then we picked our fireplace mantle. We were given two standard design options and several upgrade options. We picked one of the standard options, it’s called the Wescott and we selected a slate fireplace surround which was also a standard option. (we had a few different materials/colors to choose from) *Note the picture shows a brass fireplace screen ours will be black and a different style.

Photo Sep 13, 10 02 25 AM From there we started selecting our kitchen finishes. This part took a little bit longer since we selected our cabinets, counter tops, back splash, grout, and flooring. Everything we selected was an upgrade but still very reasonably priced. We selected white shaker cabinets for the main cabinets and pewter shaker cabinets for the island. The counter top we selected is a quartz called willow white with a standard edge. We also upgraded our kitchen sink to a single bowl instead of 50/50. Our back splash is a arctic white matte subway tile, Datile Rittenhouse with gray grout. All of the cabinets in the house will have Richelieu Hardware, transitional metal pull in brushed nickel.

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The flooring we selected for almost all of our downstairs is Armstrong Classics Country Side Hickory.  We have carpet in all of the bedrooms and upstairs, we didn’t upgrade the carpet because I know with 4 boys it’s sort of useless at this point to invest a lot into carpet. We picked a simple beige color Mohawk carpet.

For the boys bathroom we went with the standard shaker style cabinets in a standard color option, espresso. The counter tops in all of our bathrooms are standard quartz in willow white. The boys bathroom will have 2 round under mount sinks.

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The flooring in their bathroom is a standard vinyl, Armstrong Initiator. This will also be the flooring in our laundry room.

Photo Sep 13, 11 36 46 AM As you can tell we aren’t investing too much $ in the spaces the boys will use because I know they will be hard on any surface they encounter.

All of the doors in our house are a 3 panel style and all of the door knobs and hinges are a standard brushed nickel.

Finally, the master bathroom. We went with the same white shaker cabinets and quartz counter tops in willow white. However, we will have rectangular under mount sinks. Our flooring will be Shaw tile, Serenity 13 x 13 dark gray tile with matching gray grout. Our shower tile and bathtub surround are a glossy subway tile with gray grout.

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We also went with all the standard lighting which I will probably change all of it after we move it. It’s a basic brushed nickle ceiling lights and chandelier.

Finally, we upgraded the entire interior paint color from Kilim beige to Sherwin Williams Agreeable Gray.

That’s pretty much it for now. We had some upgrade options that were just too expensive and in the end really didn’t matter. We spent a little extra money on some upgrades we knew we would appreciate years from now.

Builder Meeting – Building a House

The past few days we have been super busy. Between the in-laws and friends visiting from out of town, to school events, parent-teacher conferences and new house meetings we’ve been non-stop. On Monday afternoon we met with the builder to finalize all of our structural/plumbing and electrical details so they can submit the plans for the permit. We were supposed to meet last Tuesday but they hadn’t received the plat plan from the city yet so we had to postpone.

Thankfully Joe’s parents were in town to help watch the kids so we could give our full attention during the meeting. I think coordinating meetings with all the right people around our kids’ schedules has been one of the hardest parts of this whole process so far. But thankfully we have wonderful friends and family that are more than will to hang out with our kids.

During the meeting with the builder we discussed and confirmed the follow:

  • all structural upgrades/options
  • exterior colors, siding, shutters, door
  • electrical outlet placement
  • lighting placement
  • co axial cable placement
  • lot and house position on lot
  • orientation of house (garage on the left)
  • all standard structural elements (doors, windows, island, kitchen, etc)

We didn’t go over any colors or finishes except for the exterior colors.

One of my biggest concerns and questions was how our house would fit on our lot. It’s a odd shaped lot and I couldn’t work out the ideal location for the house. I was really worried that they would position the house where we would lose a lot of our usable backyard space. They positioned the house at and angle on the lot which makes the backyard shape a little odd but does open up a pretty decent size space for the boys to play. So I’m pretty happy with the results.

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We also updated the accent color on the exterior of the house. Now the siding and board and batten will both be the same pearl color. The siding and trim color will look something like this house.

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